CORRELATION BETWEEN PARENTING AND ANXIETY ON HIGHER ACHIEVER STUDENTS

This research aims at testing empirically correlation between parenting and anxiety on higher achiever students. Hypothesis of the research is that there is correlation between parenting and anxiety on higher achiever students.This qualitative study was population study with subjects as many as 80 higher achiever students. Data were collected using scales, parenting scale and anxiety scale. Data were analyzed using product moment correlation. The result of the study shows that there was significant correlation between parenting and anxiety on higher achiever students with rxy = 0.870 and (p<0.01) thus the hypothesis of this study was accepted.


BACKGROUND
The success of learning and teaching process can be seen from test result in the form of achievement given to students.It can be said that achievement is one of the parameters that can be used to measure learning success of students.The achievement is realized in the form of scores and numbers.To accomplish good achievement, it is common that students was demanded to study as well as they can.
In reality, based on the interview result taken randomly, most students said that they experienced anxiety although they had prepared themselves as well as they could.This anxiety, in fact, causes doubt when they will face a test.On the other side, higher achiever students also realize that parents are meaningful source of their success to reach their achievement.
The parenting has made the higher achiever students felt being cared for, worthy, loved, and secure.
Children experience anxiety of being lost in facing Olympiad competition that makes their parents will be angry at them.The characteristics of this anxiety are muscle tension, difficulty sleeping, diarrhea, nightmare, over sweating and losing appetite.Children with light symptoms will try to avoid going to school by wasting their time doing something else when they will go to school, have problems with concentration at school, and go back home as soon as they can.Jurnal Dinamika Sosial Budaya, Volume 19, Nomor 1, Juni 2017 Children with moderate symptoms will tend to be at home as often as possible instead of attending school, refuse to hang out with their friends when they are at home, and always be near their parents when they are at home.Meanwhile, children with rather severe symptoms usually will refuse to go to school.

Anxiety a. Definition of anxiety
Anxiety is one of emotions that mostly causes stress felt by many people.
Sensation of anxiety is often felt by almost all individuals.This feeling is typically characterized with fear, unease, and frequently comes with symptoms such as dizziness and sweating.In accordance with Barlow's statement (Durand and Barlow, 2006: 158), anxiety is a condition, mood that is marked by physical symptoms such as physical tension and worry about the future.An anxious individual may also feel restless.Anxiety is a form of unsteady feeling with some sort of fear to uncertain or unreal things (Kartono, 1986:21).Alwisol (2004:28) stated that anxiety is ego function to warn an individual about any possibilities of danger that may come so that the individual can prepare for an adaptive reaction.
Anxiety is a feeling experienced by an individual when thinking about something unpleasant that may happen (Priest, 1994: 10).Anxiety is a form of feeling that is not settled, and surrounded by some sort of fear to uncertain or unreal things (Kartono, 1986:21) action in order to overcome the threat (Kaplan, 2000: 3).
Based on the definitions of anxiety aforementioned, it can be concluded that anxiety is a feeling experienced by an individual when thinking that something unpleasant will happen. b.

The symptoms of Anxiety
Anxiety occurs because there is a threat that bothers an individual.Atkinson Many people who feel anxious are very alert to physical symptoms such as restless, sweating palm, headache, and shortness of breath, palpitation and blushing cheek.(Greenberger, 2004: 209).

B. Outcome Achieved
The result of the research shows that there is significant correlation between parenting and anxiety of higher achiever Every parent certainly wants their children to be a smart, clever and well mannered student.
However, there are still many parents who do not realize that parenting style or pattern they implement has made the children feel anxious, their freedom being limited, even some of them do not feel loved by their parents.These feelings mostly influence their attitude, feeling, way of thinking, even intelligence.The way parents educate their children will influence the children personality so that ultimately it will also influence their academic achievement.In reality, most of the time students want maximal outcome but using improper way, such as cheating.
They want good scores, yet they do not care with the process they must go through.They ignore the fact that to get good grades or scores and to be a student with achievement, the first thing they must do is to study hard.

CONCLUSION AND SUGGESTION
Based on the conclusion and discussion aforementioned, here are some suggestions:

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2001: 413) explained that an individual having anxiety will experience physical problems such as trouble sleeping, unease, highlighted that the role of control performing by parents and support to children are the forms of parenting.Oravecz also added that parents support or the ability to do parenting will make the children feel accepted and secure.This parenting is seen in the willingness to help, warmth given, as in interaction with children, meaning that open Jurnal Dinamika Sosial Budaya, Volume 19, Nomor 1research that was as many as 80 respondents.Anxiety scale which at first consisted of 26 items was reduced to 24 valid items, 2 items were invalid.The coefficient of the items ranged between 0.278 -0.665 with 5 significance level.
students.Students who get authoritarian parenting style have higher anxiety when facing academic competition as much as 31%.This result is in accordance with Ngalim Purwanto's finding (2007:104), stating that support, situation, and family condition also determine children'by scores of study result, basically reflects how far the level of success that has been achieved by the students in reaching education goal.Accomplishing satisfactory achievement, besides learning, must also be supported with the proper implementation of parenting pattern.If parents implement improper parenting pattern, this will bring bad impact on the children particularly on their attitude and personality leading to affecting their academic achievement.
with their parents about problems that they face.They should also act positively and selectively to their parents' attitude.If parents have attitude that leads to permissive style of parenting, the children should not be bothered to initiate a communication so that their relationship can get better.3.For the future researchers, it is suggested that they use other methods in conducting research about parenting patterns, as for example through deep interview on students and their parents although it is only for some parts, thus the information obtained can be various.